I have studied Islam, Judaism, Christianity, Buddhism, Taoism, and Confucian thought. Right from Vedic history on down, I have found one thing: every religion or way of life has a methodology to bring you to commitment and to teach you commitment. Whereas, in the Sikh religion, in the transition from a Sikh to Khalsa, we expect you to come with commitment. You should first come with commitment and then we’ll give you the divine experience. Sometimes it happens that you say that you do not know whether you are committed or not. We do not understand it, because biologically, sociologically and consciously the human being is in fact, committed on some level of consciousness. The human being is not a prostitute; the human being is not a pimp or prostitute of opportunities. You remain Khalsa for three months, prostitute for four months, do your pimping for another three months, then meditate and become yogis for the rest of the time until a year has passed. Well, that may be the American style.
It is like that show I saw on television; “Love, American Style.” It taught me to really realize your approach to life. You want to have, “Spirituality, American Style.” Guru tells us, and I believe it, that no woman should marry a man at all if she has to question tomorrow. If you ever want to have an iota of happiness, you should not love anybody. You should not fall in love, you should not love anybody, you should not marry anybody, you should not have any relationship. If you’re really an honest human being, you should ask all questions and deal with all the nitty gritty, whatever you want, beforehand. After creating a relationship, after making a commitment, that is not the time to start questioning. That wrong procedure is the source of your mental acrobatics, and that is the source of your entire unhappiness.
Guru says: “Where you bow your head in obedience, don’t question, or you will be uprooted.” Guru says this, not me. One day you can come along and ask your father to prove that he is your father. You are questioning the status as father, and he will go around and show you that on your birth certificate his name is there and he’ll tell you that he had a relationship with your mother and out of that intercourse you were conceived. But, to be very honest, nobody can prove it one hundred percent. Genes may be the same, the features are there, and so on. But you may say anything, and may insist and in the very end say; “Dad, actually, very honestly, truthfully, I don’t believe you are my father.” He has nothing to say. Actually, you really don’t believe your father is your father or that your mother is your mother. You use your parents as your emotional pits, and you use your spiritual teacher and spiritual search as your pit of neuroses, where you dump your neuroses and feel you are very divine. Someone so beautiful as your spiritual teacher, you relate to in a very ordinary way.
“If anybody can tell me about my Beloved God, I would sacrifice my entire being for the company of that person.” This is what the Guru Himself says. Whereas you do not have even the projection of love which is required between a student and a teacher. I am fully aware of it through my own experience of these twelve years. But fundamentally, we must understand from what training and past we have come.