Man by nature is in self-conflict. He is the authority because he represents the Sun; he is not the authority because he is not sure he is the Sun! So there is a little son, and there is a big man conflicting all the time together, and you ladies become victims of it. If that little boy may be given a lollipop, and the big man given good food, you will avoid eighty percent of your trouble. But if you do not know how to nurture the man, don’t touch him with a nine-foot pole.
One law you must learn as a woman. Even if you want to express your anger, and your frustration, and you are disgusted with a situation, do it very graciously. An angry woman has no place in the world of man. Do you understand that? Because the moment you become angry, he becomes insecure. It is automatic. You don’t have to ask for it. Moment he becomes insecure, he is going to exert his territory. The war is going to begin. There is nothing you can do about it. Loud speaking, rude speaking, angry jokes, black humor, they do not belong to the man’s world. Avoid them. You need sophisticated, self-contained self to deal with your most beloved man or the man you hate the most. It doesn’t matter. You shall win. And all you want is to win. Is there anybody who wants to lose in their life? None. You all want to win.
And the best way to win is how you talk. It is called AC: Alternative Current, or Art of Communication.