The subject I am going to touch today in the religious realms of Sikh Dharma is called “loneliness.” And I hope that you will gain from it.
When you challenge the natural phenomena of life, you create duality and chaos, and the outcome of duality and chaos is misery, pain, disease and nonsense. Even being a yogi, when I tolerate insult in the name of compassion, my physical body does not take it right. Mentally it is okay, because mentally I can understand that it is the process of life I have to go through to keep people going towards their spiritual surge. But when an insult is hurled at you, the physical body reacts automatically through its glandular system, through its psyche, and creates problems.
Loneliness is a very acceptable state of consciousness in Sikh Dharma. Sikh Dharma actually starts from one word: “Ik”—the One. There is not two, and One is always lonely. If you put a zero with one, it makes ten. If you add one to another one, it makes eleven. If you put two with it, it is twelve. If you put three with it, it is thirteen.
The purpose of life is for you to reach a state of consciousness when there is no peer group, period. Only then can you become a giver. Before that you are in a business of give and take. But when you give and give and give and, for the sake of living, you live, then you have to have no peer group. Then you become “Ik”—the One. One is very lonely. It has its own beginning; it has its own end, and its own process. That’s why Guru Nanak described Ik: Aad sach, jugaad sach, haibhee sach, Naanak hose bhee sach. What will it be? Ik. That One.
You are all afraid to become lonely, you are scared to become lonely. You do not know what to do with your loneliness because you do not know how to give. Give you loneliness, that oneness, that ecstasy, that state of higher consciousness. When you do not even have a peer group, nobody can match you, nobody can reach you, nobody can understand you, nobody can know you, then you become heaven, heaven becomes you, earth has nothing to do with you, and then you are really in pain. Tears flow from you like water because you say, “What am I doing here?” I don’t know what you are doing. All you have to do is uplift other people, share the oneness of that ecstasy of consciousness, chare that loneliness, and let people know it is good to be lonely because lonely has three things in it: purity, infinity and grace (ecstasy). When these ingredients get together and amalgamate with each other, one becomes lonely. One becomes One. Are there two Gods? One God which produces ladies, the other produces men? And one God which produces animals and another produces trees? We say it with great pride, “There is but One God!” If there is but One God, then there is but one you, there is but one me. “I am, I am,” then who do you want to be friends with?
I am not saying that you should not relate to people and be nice to them and serve them and not play with them. Loneliness means being in a state of consciousness where you see everybody as you. That oneness, that loneliness, is a state of consciousness when you do not see anyone other than you—one focus, one picture, one meditation, one consciousness, one feeling, one emotion.
People say, “What should I do with my feelings?” Have them. Because shashara releases thoughts and thoughts become emotions and feelings. But, that’s fine. To have emotions and feelings is perfect. There’s nothing wrong with it. What’s wrong is when every feeling and every emotion becomes neurosis and commotion. Rather every feeling, every emotion should be put to the test through intelligence and consciousness. These two things are okay. The other two you don’t want to do. Homework you don’t want to do, and yet you want to enjoy life. Now tell me, if you do not survey where you are going, which road are you going to take, which freeway will you take, which lane will you take? If you do not take enough gas in your car, enough food, enough money, how can you get to the destination? And just as an ordinary destination is part of daily life, in the travel of the soul, we call it “destiny.” In the travel of a man, we call it destination. There’s no difference. And everybody goes alone. Even that driver who has six passengers in the car is alone and is the driver by designation. Designation, distance, destiny; it’s the same thing. You are designated as a human being for the destiny to become One. It is a very long, lonely road. Nobody else can travel on it with you, match up with you, understand you, or be with you, because you are very specially made by the One in the image of One’s own self. For convenience you call it “God.”
“God” is a convenient word. Just to express the known and the unknown together in the living self, three things must meet: known, unknown, and you. That is God. G-O-D. Brahma, Vishnu, Mahesh. The Creator, Sustainer, and Destroyer. Three powers must meet together to create the word “God.” And there is but one God. Totally lonely. Have you ever understood? God, God, you all talk about—when you merge in God, God is very lonely because there are no two Gods. He even cannot go bowling. What can He do? He has nobody. Nobody can judge Him, no one can understand Him, nobody can know Him, because He is beyond, beyond, beyond.
Nit, Nit, Nit, Namo, Namo, Namo—No, No, No, I bow, I bow, I bow. Because God is not his, God is not that, God is just God. Parapaarabraham, paramesheram. That is beyond the beyond, that creative self or the total self in destiny and dignity and insanity and sane self, and wrong and right and plus and minus, beauty and ugliness and thief and saint, are all just saying one thing. Lots of thieves, few saints. It is a comparative study.
You do not know you are unique. You are One. The Oneness in you, you have not found. That’s why people take everything away from you. That’s why you want sociability, and society, and relations. How bizarre and berserk these relationships are, and you all want it because the one relationship you need with One has not been established. You don’t understand Sikh Dharma at all. Sikh Dharma started with that lonely one word: One. Ik Ong Kar. There is but One Creator of the entire creation, therefore you cannot say anything. It means, “shut up.” It’s very simple. When you have to say nothing, do nothing, be nothing, then you know what you are? You are a lighthouse, so nobody else can wreck near you. That is the one thing in life you have to do. Spread the light. Be the lighthouse. So every journey, every destiny, every distance will be safe.
No, no, you don’t do that. You are fishers, fishermen. You go out, make-up, look pretty, to do what? To excite feelings in another person, commotions. And when you speak, you put the hook on a line so that you can trap another person, and you play this game, trapping and catching and fishing and in the end, you say you are not selfish> You fish all day, every word, every movement, everything. All this energy, pranic energy: