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Summary of Question:	Re: Must Women Be Cooks/Maids In Their Homes?
Category:	Other
Date Posted:	Tuesday, 3/23/2004 2:09 PM MDT

Women are not maids in their homes; they are like an engine to the train. Please do not underestimate power/role of a women by designating her ‘just’ a cook or/and maid. She is the first and most important teacher of the child she gives birth to. Children learn what they watch.

The role of a couple becomes automatically gender based as a child enters their married life. It is natural instinct of a woman to take care of her child that involves cooking, cleaning, feeding, bathing & much more. Good husbands are always contributing to the chores to make sure that their wives are taken care of while they are taking care of the children (family). I am full-time working mother; it has never occurred to me that someone else should take over my primary job of taking care of my children and husband. Serving them makes me humble and happy. I take pride in being care taker of my family.

I also wanted to share a small glimpse of the glorious blessing my husband has been to me for the 10 years of our marriage. Our shared faith has always been the foundation of our love.

He is patient. He has endured my “pregnancy emotions” with ease, handled our children’s fits with assuredness, gracefully maneuvered through hectic schedules, and persevered through our marriage with unwavering support. With Waheguru’s grace, my husband has always found a way to be a strong, stable support for our family.

He is kind. I seem to always get gifts/flowers “just because” he loves me. I find an email that was sent to say hello or a precious love note to brighten my day.

He protects. Since change has been inevitable part of our marriage; my husband always goes ahead to make sure ground is solid and details are secure in the next step for our family.

He always hopes. He sees the future through my eyes. I love our late night talks where we share our dreams and look forward to the things to come, whether it’s the excitement of watching children grow or the hopes of growing old together. He seems to know what I love and he aims to make it a reality.

He always perseveres. He encourages me to be a better person, whether it’s learning Kirtan, making time to do ‘path’, getting me outside for a walk, or teaching a Sunday school class at Gurdwara. I’m challenged to dream bigger, go farther and plan larger with his love touching my heart.

His love never fails. He is a constant in our lives and he’s a solid rock for our children and me. His faithfulness and loyalty are unsurpassed. True love is the consistent actions he displays and the daily decisions he makes to choose us.

He is a husband that gives unconditionally of his heart and soul, he is a father that gives of his complete time and energy, and he is a son that loves with respect and honor. My husband fills our home with laughter and love. I adore him with my whole heart and I consider myself truly blessed. Just as I am my munchkin’s mom, I long to be my husband’s wife, serving and loving him all my days.

(REPLY) Thank you for sharing your experience. May all marriages be so ideal!