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Summary of Question:Khalsa Pretenders
Date Posted:Saturday, 2/17/2001 1:04 AM MST

Waheguru JI ka Khalsa, Waheguru JI ki Fateh!

I am feeling very upset and disturbed at this moment in my life.

I have a very large family. My mom's family consists of eight brothers and two sisters who all have kids of their own.

Three of the brothers have passed away. One several years ago - one last year and one just last week.

I am upset about this incident. It was my mamaji. He was the favorite uncle in the entire family for everybody.

His brother lives in Seattle, with his wife and 5 kids.

They use the last name "Khalsa."

What really bothers me is - about two years ago, they removed themselves from our family.

Basically they stopped calling us, talking to us or having any contact with us.

They never justified their actions - and withdrew themselves from all social activity related to our family or anybody that our family knows.

Now, my mamaji has passed away - and their family seems to show no sympathy.

They are so entangled in their search for Maya... that they don't even have emotions to show their sadness at the death of my mamaji... for the kids in their family he was their chachaji

People came from all over the world to attend my mamaji's funeral. They came weeks earlier. Some from Calgary, some from New York, some from England, some from India.

This family... the "Khalsa" family... lives in Seattle - a 2 hour drive away... and they didn't come until the very night before the funeral.

And they don't want to deal with any of my family even at this time.

I don't know what to do

I'm so upset and I want to teach them how inhumane they're being.

They are moorakhs. Cowards.

How could I handle this?

I'm sure that they'll run away back to their stupid house in Seattle right after the funeral.

They think that having the last name "Khalsa" makes them pure.

What do you do with moorakhs like this?

Thank you for your help.
Greetings to you in the Name of God the light of every soul and in the Name of Guru the life of every Sikh.

Dear one. I can really feel your pain and confusion. This 'family' play too is a maya. The play of life is in the hands of God and Guru. For us mortals, only the light of the Guru can give us comfort and understanding. The good advise that I can give to you is not to judge. Here is how you can do this.

First thing is for you to be be greatful that you are not them (one of those who is causing the pain to you and your family). Second thing is to let it go. All you can see is what is happening now. You cannot know all that may have happened before to cause this separation. It is better too give up your pain and disappointment to God and Guru. We are all puppets in the hands of God. You can use your life to uplift and inspire yourself by reading from the Guru. See how the Guru calls our relations. When you are inspired and bright, others will too.

God bless you.

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