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Summary of Question:	Meant To Be Or Not?
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Friday, 6/03/2005 9:17 PM MDT

Hi,

i was just reading the forum and i came across this question posted by this girl. She was asking about this guy she loves, but he already with someone else...the reply was something about how the guy is obviously not meant for her because maybe Waherguru brought him into her life as a form of reptitive karma.....i didnt realy understand it but u guys said something like we make mistakes in past lifes and Waheguru will put us in the same situation again and this time we are suppose to put a stop to it.
Here is my question:
Ive been with my boyfriend for 9 years now. We met when we were 14. We were not totally honest with each other at some stages, i mean he cheated on me so did i...but ive kinda realised his value in my life and i dont need another man or i dont need to cheat. We are now in a long distance relatihionship. He is studying overseas.
Me and him, we've had heaps of issues. Sometimes i dont believe that he loves me....im very insecure. But i always think of God and say, "nah, i may not have faith in him but i have faith in babaji".
Is he in my life, becoz im supposed to learn soemthing abt my past?
Does the karma thing mean that he is just a test and im suppose to put an end to this to show that im not continuing some process here.....im really confused.......can i get some clearer perspective
Thanks

---reply

It is very difficult for me to answer your question, because I know so little about your situation. If I were you, I would be very honest and direct with this guy. Ask him what you mean to him. What future does he see between the two of you? Does he love you? Does he want to spend his life with you? What is the relationship? You may be holding on to an illusion. Also, you need to get clear within yourself. Ask yourself the same questions you ask him. A woman should never come from her insecurity. Develop your self, build your self-esteem and self-reliance. Be who you can be. Don't base your identity on a guy. He will never respect you for that. Blessings. GTKK