I can offer this advice for the women who has problems with her husband. First of all I think that you have to confront him. Tell him that you feel neglected, tell him that you are worried and you want things back the way they were. You cant make him choose between you or his mom. You gotta remember his mom isnt going to be around forever. Tell him that you want to get close to him and his mom. Get your family to support you. Talk to them. You have realized the problem exists now HE has to realize it too. But remember, you dont want to attack them, try to avoid trouble. Make the situation, the best it can be for yourself.