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Summary of Question:	My Family Want Me 2 Go 2 School...
Category:	Other
Date Posted:	Wednesday, 2/15/2006 12:36 PM MST

WJKK WJKF

i'm currently studying 4 gcses, and have a tough choice about next year (A LEVELS). My family want me to go to a grammar school close by, but i believe college is the best option for me and it is half of the journey i currently do with easy public transport, which is not even a problem. My family believe college will disrupt my studies and isn't a good option. I have a problem with the fact that the grammar school is a male school and i would only be 1 of 5 girls out of 50 boys (approx)which a much less comfortable mixed environment ompared to college. Uptil and including today i have done evrything according to their will, and listened to the min important guidelines they have given me. Although i have done wrong by religion at times, i have strong faith in Waheguru and i nkow that whatever will happen will happen for the ebst, but i am unaware of what to do. Also at college i can study the 4 alevels i wish to study, whereas at the grammar school i am able to study only 2 of my 4 personal choice. I feel like they want to force me, and i have been offered places in both the college and school, but obviosuly these will be confirmed after gcses. I have spoken 2 other family memeers and my dad feels i should not be forced, but other family emmebrs feel he is not responsible enough to ive an opinion that i should listen to. my mother wishes for my happiness but is weak infrot of family members she feels have done so much for her. i am appreciative of all they have don but my friends and other cousins see y argument and feel i should listen to my heart, as this is the avaaj of Waheguru Ji inside me...my heart says college...and i nkow my decisionwill be on my head, but imay not enjoy college..but that is then my own problem, at least enjoy the courses, but i am against the idea of going to this school but i know they want the best for me, but they want to force me and won't listen to what i have to say, and i feel it is a waste of my time and effort. I need advice...i know my God will guide me..but i am looking for some advice from somebody that may help me...THANK YOU please respond...
May WaheguruJi bless us all
WJKK WJKF

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Sat nam. Perhaps it is too soon to decide. Perhaps you should see about taking a job short-term to keep you busy and just stay out of academics for a while. In 6 months I'll bet you have a better idea.
My other response is: follow your heart. Your family is to be commended for not forcing you, but it IS your life, not theirs. Disappointments happen when parents and siblings set unrealistic expectations for their children/siblings. Let go of whether your are disappointing them or not. You can please them but if you live with disappointment for the rest of your life, is that being true to who you are? Guru ang sang,
-DKK