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Summary of Question: | Urgent Help About Sex |
Category: | General Sikhism |
Date Posted: | Sunday, 10/23/2005 4:50 PM MDT |
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Sat Nam, dear one. This is not a sex problem. It is an intimacy problem. Your satisfying yourself is a natural reaction to your husband's inability to be intimate with you. Satisfying yourself is not a problem, and it will not prevent you from getting pregnant. It is neither nasty nor disgusting. It is natural under your circumstances. However, it would be much more joyful if your husband could be intimate with you and if you could honestly communicate with each other. There is a deeper issue here and that is the lack of intimacy and honest, direct communication between you and your husband. Is he willing to admit that there is a problem and to work on it with you? If so, there is a meditation you can do together to help, but he must be a willing participant. If he is open to this, let me know. Otherwise, if he is not willing to discuss this and work on it, then what remains is the power of your prayer. Three prayers are the most powerful and can move the mountains: the Guru's prayer, the mother's prayer, and the prayer of the beloved. It is not the prayer of the wife... it is the prayer of the beloved. Love is the key. If you can honestly open your heart to your husband, without rancor or anger, then your prayers will work. Your prayer must be that his heart opens to you. But that will not work unless your heart is open to him first. Even the most selfish man can change by Guru's grace. Start by doing Sukhmani paath every day for HIM.... dedicate your Sukmani paath to him and when you finish, close your eyes and open your heart completely and pray to Guru Ji that your husband's heart may open to you and your marriage may be saved. It is only through your kindness that this change can happen.
May Guru bless you and heal your marriage.
.....G