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Summary of Question:	Bad Is Powerful
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Saturday, 2/10/2007 7:50 AM MST

I now believe in evil too. In the past 1 year I have been through so much in life and the only thing I have inferred from my this experiences is that evil powers also exist on this earth and they are very powerful, probably as powerful as God. God exists and so does evil.

I am a hardworking, spiritual, ambitious person more concerned about helping the world and a strong believer of God. I married someone 1 year back, who was a Gursikh, amritdhari and good human being (I thought). I picked him because of his good qualities, his loving nature and love for Sikhism out of all the marriage proposals I had. And this same person turned into a monster on the night of wedding, he physically abused me. In the 1 year of being married to him of which I lived with him only for 5 months, he abused me physically and emotionally atleast 10 times. Sometimes so bad that I had to call cops. It’s like he lost his interest in me after marriage. He didn’t spend time with me, didn’t call me, just lots of pain.
Financially- I left my job early on in the marriage and so I was dependant on him, eventually he blocked my access to our accounts; I had no money and no job. He even demanded money from my parents for food and rent that he spent on me while I was with him. He still had all my jewellery, gifts my parents gave me during wedding, my educational certificates and clothes. I believe he will sell this; he has wronged me so much. I believed in the institution of marriage, in love but he wronged me and God allowed this to happen to me.
The thing is when I was going through all this I always felt a force around me. A power which was making things happen, it just made situation so hard that it allowed this to happen to me. I believe that power is the evil force not God.
I am confused, both because of the turn my life has taken and also I am not sure anymore if God always protects us.
Some might say its karma and that I had to pay for it, well could be but usually when you go through pain you learn something from it. But this time around, I haven’t really understood much except for that evil forces exist and they also affect us a lot.
My question is if this were true- How do I understand why this happened to me? Why was I picked for these experiences?
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Sat nam. My heart breaks for you. Your husband cares only about control/dominion. It is a pathology, a disease, and reason and love don't figure into it at all. It is highly likely he was abused or grew up in a household where his father abused his mother. You can fight back, but I suspect he will abuse you more. Although as a Sikh, you have the right and duty to fight back. Let go right now of any idea that (1) you deserve this, because you don't and (2) that he'll change, because he won't unless HE WANTS TO.

I truly recommend you escape this beast. Far away. How it looks to outsiders or your family is irrelevant. If you are in America or Canada, there are shelters for women whose husbands abuse them, and you can find them by using the yellow pages and looking online. Get help, and confide only in people you can trust absolutely who he cannot harm.

WHY you have this karma, I cannot say. Recite this mantra every day 3 times ONLY : Alakh Ba-bay Siri Chand Dee-Rakh. It will give you courage and support and dispel the evil presence you perceive. I pray that you choose life over abuse and get the support you need to leave this marriage and him behind.
Guru ang sang,
DK