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Summary of Question: | To Tell Or Not To Tell.... |
Category: | Love & Marriage |
Date Posted: | Friday, 1/07/2005 6:30 PM MST |
Your input would be greatly appreciated =)
(REPLY) Sat Nam. Honesty is the best policy. As you are aware, it will be more of a problem if you delay telling your parents, since they are now shopping for a "suitable" mate for you! This "caste" distinction is not only outdated; it is a culturally based Hindu tradition, and it's definitely contrary to the teachings of our Guru. As for being "selfish" -- well, unless you think you are supposed to live your life for your parents, well, what can I say? Everything that we do is selfish, in the sense that everything that we do has consequences to us personally. You just have to decide what are the pros and cons of the choices that you are making. Are you SURE that your boyfriend is the right one to be your partner for life? If so, why don't you want to be engaged now? Are you praying for guidance? Are you meditating every day? Reading your banis? Don't deprive yourself of the blessing of tuning in to the wisdom of our Gurus, especially understanding Japji will give you clarity. Blessings, SP