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|What Is The Meaning Of This
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|Tuesday, 8/12/2008 11:53 AM MDT
y heart but then i afriad that what my heart is telling me is wrong...then there are times where i am living my life and moving on and thinking of other things and see him as something in the past and then i'll go to sleep and have dreams about him and then i'll wake up all confused what i want to know is what is the meaning of all of this what is the meaning of him coming into my life and for me to feel this way
Most people go through life meeting beautiful souls and having some very interesting connections, and it is never just one person. It sounds to me that your particular connection is very deep and beautiful and it is not uncommon. We go through many, many life times meeting the same people over and over again playing different roles for one another and developing deep histories together.
Sometimes we comeback for dozens of life times just to marry the same person over and over again because we want to perfect our relationship with them. All of these connections are very dear to us but since every life time we forget what we did in the past we don’t know exactly why we are having this interesting experience in the present. We don’t know whether what we are feeling is just there to appreciate this other person’s existence or actually have a real lasting relationship with them.
What you are describing could be very well your destiny but the timing is not right. In that case time and space will put you face to face when you are both ready.
Women mature a lot faster than man. Women have stronger intuitive capacity than any man. So it does not mean that he is feeling anything of what you are and recognizing the connection, hence all the other girls in his life. When his time is right he may wake up to it. On the other hand just like you said we can not wait for ever for someone not knowing if you are supposed to be together.
Some relationships may start out with a great connection of this kind but not last because people are not mature enough to handle the commitment or childishly feel that they have the right to hurt the other person. When the Guru keeps you apart like that …perhaps because you both may not be able to handle it or will have the tendency to destroy each other. Earthly personalities can be very different than the truth of our essence within our soul. If you are recognizing the depth and purity of his sould you maybe forgetting that his earthly self may not be a match to you at all.
Unfortunately these kinds of connections happen even if we had a horrible relationship with this person for many life times too and the contract sometimes not to be together anymore but to just get over each other so you won’t hurt one another anymore. Horrible relationships are full of love too. Love is always underlying all. When we hurt each other it means we either try to learn a lesson or teach a lesson, but neither one is a conscious choice. In this case the Guru may want to protect you from that too.
The best relationships in life are the easy ones, the ones that come to you. You don’t have to chase anyone. Remember the flower never chases the bee. It always waits or the bee to come and enjoy her beauty.
You may see the light of his soul and something in you may recognize his radiance and his strength and his great potential as a man etc. … but you always have to remember that he has to be able to recognize all those things in you too. And if he does not, then he may not be for you. It is best to evaluate all the things he would want to give you willingly than be in love with someone’s potential.
It is better to marry someone with less of a connection but with a great consious commitment to develop that kind of connection than wait for this connection to transform into a commitment. Do you see how it works?
Conscious need for commitment has to come first and it needs to be born in him and you on your own. He needs to be ready on his own. Otherwise you will wind up being the person in his life who constantly tells him what to do and how to be. Mutual commitment coming from mature point is the only thing which will help you move mountains together.
My advice is just to live your life the best you can. Do a lot of fun stuff and enjoy every day. And before you know it the right person will be right there in front of you and you will be amazed how easy everything will happen for you when you are ready.
I hope this clarifies things for you a bit.