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Summary of Question:	Traditional Values
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Friday, 7/25/2003 5:36 PM MDT

hi,

i'm in love wid my boyfriend, and always saw him as potential for marriage. I believe in traditional values & want 2wait 4 marriage before i have sex. but 4 months into the relationship i have found out that he is not a virgin but has slept around. i am so in love i don't know what i should do, should i accept this even though i know in my heart i want my husband to be the same as me? also i do not think my parents wud be so accepting of my choice. is love enough?

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Sat Nam. I guess you need to ask your self if your values are compatible. Is he going to continue to sleep around while in your relationship...in marriage? What values does he have and how do they match yours? You are not in-love yet. You are infactuated with this guy. Love is much deeper and is based on a deep commitment. Infactuation can lead to love. Don't be naive and stupid, because you are "love sick". Go slowly and cautiously. Don't sleep with him...that only makes it harder to be clear-headed. Test his values and commitment to you. Don't compromise your values or honor. Marriage is for life and needs to be thoroughly investigated before you "jump" into it. Be looking for the new matrimonial section on the Sikh Youth Forum. It will help you a lot. GTKK