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Summary of Question:	Unbearable And Inescapable Pain
Category:	Other
Date Posted:	Thursday, 1/15/2009 3:27 PM MST

Sat Sri Akal

I am very depressed.. and i feel I am drowning is the sea of my family's troubles... there is a lot of pain that has been brewing for over the last 30 years... and has never been dealt with... with each day life gets darker and darker... because everything revolves around taking no constructive action since there is a grand worry about what the community will say if they ever come to know of what is going on in our home... my mom is a very good person and does a lot of paath but she is always bearing the brunt of all the torturous situations we are surrounded by... in trying to console her, and keep her uplifted i am sinking into great depths of despair... i meditate upon Waheguru a lot but am finding my energy level diminishing tremendously... to the point where i just want to sleep all day... i pray for death... to be liberated from the pain that is engulfing my life... everyone i have ever become close to and given completely to of my love and care has turned their back on me after a point and become very cruel... i am losing faith in humanity... and even my dreams for myself seem to be withering away... i've thought about distancing myself from my family for a breather.. but i know they will inflict great feelings of guilt on me for doing that.... i dont want to hurt anyone...

please help

indebted to you for allowing me to express this...
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Dear one,
Sometimes the hologram of the family keeps us trapped in negative patterns.

You must live your life and care for yourself and help yourself first. Recall on the airplane, when you are about to take off they give safety procedures. The instructions given are always..."put your OWN face mask on BEFORE assisting your child or another.

You must find your base and support. When you feel supported and able it is possible you can help others like your family. There is also the possibility that they are so deeply into a pattern of despair that your best support wold be from afar....I mean by not living with them and always being able to support from your neutral strong position. You are a very sensitive person and must care for yourself.

Then our tenth Mastre Guru Gobind Singh gave us the perfect bani for overcoming negativity. I shall share with you now a great Kriya to be done while reciting JAAP SAHIB which I recommend for you to do for this entire year, DAILY. Takes only 31 minutes. The following are the words of Siri Singh Sahib Bhai Sahib Harbhajan Singh Yogi JI.


(BOWING JAAP SAHIB)

What we are going to do now is chant with Jaap Sahib. When you utter the word "namastang" touch your forehead to the ground, and by the time the phrase finishes you should be straight up. Your hands should be on your thighs please, not on the ground. We are going to experiment today. We are going to show you how effective it is. This is how I learned Jaap Sahib. Do it with devotion. "Namo is the same as "namastang.” Copy it! Become sharp. There is nothing in Jaap Sahib you have to learn. It is a naad.

I'm telling you how Guru Gobind Singh uplifted his people who were crippled mentally and physically and downgraded to the extent that if somebody sat on the ground less than two and a half feet from a Moghul, his punishment was to be beheaded. If a soldier spit at you and if you didn't catch the spit, you could be beheaded. Ten, twenty, a hundred thousand men were picked up and their blood was fed to the emperor's hounds. That was the price of life. Men sitting normally doing a normal chore were picked up to be mincemeat, so that the hunting lions of the emperor could be fed. These were the times and this was the state of affairs. That was the rule of tyranny then. There was no appeal there was no life. After a couple of hundred years, a movement started where man began elevating and becoming conscious and becoming visible to God, and God became visible to man. And when the victory came, that is when Guru Gobind Singh used the praise of the Lord in naad. That is what is beautiful about Jaap Sahib: it raises the soul and the self of the being. And that is what we are talking about. I'm just trying to give you the experience as I learned Gurbaanee, and I learned yoga, and I learned Kundalini Yoga.

I know you don't want to develop yourself. Because you are afraid that you will be in a high position and you will mess up because of the terrible training you have had. You have been made to love ugliness; it's not your fault. You are all educated, you are all beautiful and there is no reason that you should feel ugly at any time. It is society which has made you ugly.

I remember that the most powerfully effective way is to copy Jaap Sahib, because you are not copying the words, you are copying the creative essence of the word, the naad. There is no other way that you can learn about sensitivity. If you can practice this meditatively, then whatever people say, you will always compute what people mean. It will give you a totally different dimension. It will take away unawareness, foolishness and nonsense. What a person is saying and what he actually means are two different dimensions. And that is what I want you to experience.

Jaap Sahib is not just to praise God. To praise God is the way we have been taught. It's the oldest method, because man wanted to be with God and, so he was told to pray and meditate. That is where I differ. I have experienced and I believe that these things are there to make us highly sensitive, absolutely creative and extremely intuitive. It doesn't matter how rich you are, how healthy you are or how good you are. It doesn't matter if you have all faculties of life which you want to have, if you are not intuitive, you are dumb. That's where the buck stops. That's where pain comes, that is what I'm trying to take you past. For that you need new blood. That's why we are doing these exercises, so that the glands can work.


. Jaap Saahib is Guru Cobind Singh's baanee, it comes from the third center of balanced naad.
You have to understand one thing. The Sikhs of Guru Gobind Singh were in a position to run at the speed of a horse. What was the miracle that gave them such power? Jaap Saahib. Jaap Saahib gives you the strength of the mind behind every muscle of you. And if we have to change, take the Name of God everywhere, with every breath. This is how we can do it. The Name should be in us and we should recite it, we should be with it, and we should become it. And that is the way to be spiritual. Everything you do should be right from your spirit, and your spirit should be in it. That's the way you can succeed. Nothing else will work it out. You understand?

That's why he recited Jaap Saahib. This baanee is a gift to you to use when your grace, your power, and your position are threatened. Whoever will recite this baanee shall never fall flat on his face. That's why an ordinary bunch of bones could fight with thousands and thousands of armed, trained soldiers and defend themselves beautifully; because they had the spirit with them.

* Jaap Sahib is the salutation to
God in which Guru Gobind Singh recites every facet of God. As many facets as have been explained there, that many facets as a person you have to cover in your life. That's what Jaap Sahib is. You have to deal with each facet, but if you want to do that, you require about 250 living years to learn, practice, experience and project each facet. I don't think we have that time. So basically, the idea of the mantra is, it gives you the key to the opening of that hemisphere where you want to be.That's what Jaap Sahib does and when you do it with these exercises, it will keep you healthy, happy and holier than you can think. You can enjoy life.
Now, there is another thing in Jaap Sahib which you might not have ever understood; that is "Ek Achree Chand. ' (ajai alai)If you verbally remember it, mentally remember it, and you can verbalize it mentally, it doesn't matter, what your karmas are, or who you are, if you can remember it and recite it eleven times, there is nothing that you need as a graceful woman which shall not be bestowed upon you by the hand of God. Not by any human being; no human being can give you anything anyway. "Ek Achree Chand" is in Jaap Saahib. It's one
chant only, it's not very long, it's just a bunch of words, but God is bound in each word.

If our mind is not pure and clean, we cannot deal with life. It is a simple thing, deal with it on a simple level. You think that you have all the facilities you need so you can face life, but it's not true. You may have all the facilities, but if your mind is not pure and positive, you can't face the life. You have to understand this: it is the pure and the positive mind which will make life easy for you. All you want is an easy life, you don't want to go through the problems and unnecessary rituals. Sometimes you do a lot of wrong things; it's a total waste of a woman. You are not going to find out anything except that you are going to be hurt. If you want to live with your hurts and you want to cause yourself the hurts, that is a different science and a different theory. As far as I am concerned, no woman is meant to be hurt. I think that basically, we should not go for that.

It is my feeling that if we really work hard on ourselves and flow with our own energy, we can penetrate through life successfully. Expecting somebody else to help you or to make you happy or feel good is asking for trouble. Rather, you should make yourself so happy that by looking at you, people should become happy. You do not understand your basics.Whether you are married or not, have children or not, basically you have to keep the entire dimension, the entire domain happy. That's woman's work. For a woman to reach God is as easy as for me to go from here to the ranch.


So that we would not become beggars at the doors of others and be insulted, Guru Gobind Singh became one with God and recited Jaap Sahib.