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Summary of Question:	Borrowing Money
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Wednesday, 7/30/2003 5:43 AM MDT

WJKK WJKF

Me and brother are very close. We get on well and have similar interests.
He left school at 17 and started in the building trade. I decided to pursue a education in computing, therefore attending College and University.
The problem is that every since I can remember my brother always been bortrowing money. Whether it be me, my sister, mum, dad or friends.
I have never really questioned why he requires money or what he does with it as I have always been of the thinking that Sikhism tells us to help and share others in their time of need, and after all he is my brother. If I can't help him who can I help?
About 3 months ago he borrowed £1000 from me and said that he needed it as he is stuck on a job and needed materials and I would get it back in 1 months time. When I asked for it now he keeps saying he will pay me but never does.
He tries to avoid the subject of money and tries to stay out of my way.
I also need the money for mortgage and general living but he doesn't seem to respect that. I am at a stage now where I think I will let it go and tell him never to ask me for money again, but on the other hand it is hard earned money and I should be able to ask back what I have earned. I spoke to my mother and father and they say ask for it back because if the shoe was on the other foot he definately would.
What does Sikhism say about asking back for what is rightfully yours, as I can't go on all my life bailing him out.

Sat Sri Akaal

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Sikhism tells us to earn righteously, be honest, forthcoming and stand by our word. Its sounds like you have lived the Sikh values, whereas your brother hasn't. As long as you enable him to cheat you, he will. Sikhs are not victims. Don't allow yourself to be a victim of your brother. The Gurus were not victims to their siblings or children who cheated, stole or lied. Infact, it is unSikh like to allow such abuse. you will be doing your brother a favor by not allowing such behavior. Expect the best of him, not the lowest. Yes, you should demand that he repay you...perhps in instalments. GTKK