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Summary of Question:	Re :Care Too Much About What Others Think If Me, Its Killing Me
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Friday, 11/14/2003 12:39 PM MST

HI, after reading your post I felt that I should offer my opinion about your situation. I know it is hard for you to do what your doing. But let me start off by telling you a story. There was this guy who went to my school, he must have been about 300 pounds. People used to always make fun of him, except me. I had a causal friendship with him. Anyways I saw him a few months back, I did not even reconize him. He had to approach me. He was in the best shape of his life. He was telling me how he did it and stuff, but he kept mentioning one thing. The reason he did not loose weight before was because, he did not want to do it for himself. He said " when your ready to make changes within yourself, you HAVE to do it for one person, that person is YOU". When people will see your smile, they will then realize that you are happy and on top of the world. I know people can be cruel, but you have to remember that they too have a soul, and this soul is probally hurting. This hurt usually comes out in ridicule to others. I know it is hard to just stand up and be strong, but once you start to take positive steps in your life, then you can do anything you want to.

As for your family, my dad does the same thing. He calls us fat all the time, its weird though, cause were not that bad. I just laugh it off, cause it is such a punjabi thing. Fathers are always like that. My brother is very muscular but he is still fat in his eyes.
I am not too sure if your religous, but if you are you, know how much strength and self-respect Sikhi shows to us. You have to take a negative situation and turn it into a learning experience that will make you the best person that you are.
You are only 22, I mean come on brother, you already have your degree, your doing awesome. Heres my e-mail, contact me, and we can talk, [email protected].

(REPLY) Sat Nam. Thanks for ths! SP