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Summary of Question:Marrying A Person Of Other Caste
Category:Love & Marriage
Date Posted:Wednesday, 2/07/2001 8:02 AM MST

Hi my name is Manny, I live in England. Well I went out with my girlfriend for two and a half years, we were very serious about each other and wanted to get married, due to this love for each other we had sex, we did this cause we deeply loved each other. However about three months ago we broke up because her mum rejected the idea of my girlfriend marrying me as they are Jat and I am Ramgharia. Now my girlfriend has split up with me. I have no problem with caste which is why I was dating her in the first place. Right now I feel so lost and doubt everything. What I want to know is should'nt my girlfriend try harder to marry me. I mean we have lost our virginity to each other and we love each other so really I think she should try a little harder to persuade her parents. Please advise me as I really love my girlfriend and beleive we should get married.

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Greetings and blessings to you in the Name of God and Guru.

By the order of the Guru, there are no caste distinctions in our way of life. The caste systen is a Hindu ritual. It has no place in any of our practices as Sikhs. No one is higher or lower in the eyes of God and Guru.

Yes, you are right in a number of ways. When a parent insists that their child observe a caste restriction for marriage, they are wrong. Encouraging your love or fiance to stand by you and patiently work it through with her parents is appropriate. Also, having shared your love is very special and not to be taken so lightly. I would encourage you also, not to give up on her either. Committment is a very valuable quality in life and relationships.

God bless you and keep up!



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