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Summary of Question:	About To Get Married
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Sunday, 2/25/2001 4:37 PM MST

Hello,

My name is Kiran and I am 23 years old. I have been seeing my soon to be husband for about 4 years now. My parents and his parents didn't really care because they wanted us to get married ever since we were little kids so our families could be closely related. My question is in 2 weeks i am getting married to this man and everything thing is perfect i mean we have the gurdwara and the people and the food and everything else set. Nothing could be better, but I am so scared. At night my hands shake because that is hot scared I am. I feel as though i have to puke every time i think about our weddind day. Is there anything i can do to calm myself down? And is this normal?? thank you for your time
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Greetings and blessings to you in the Name of God and Guru.

Dear one, have you talked to your Mom or Auntie or married friends about your intense physical reaction? You need some comfort and support.

A marriage is not the the Gurdwara and the food and people. A marriage is a spiritual process of a man and woman taking the vows of committment to support each other and live for each other. This is done before God and Guru in the presence of the Sadh Sangat. The Sangat is there for your support and encouragement.

Have you ever read the wedding rounds, Lanvan, in English? The wedding or Lanvan was actually written by Guru Ram Das for his marriage to Bibi Bhani Kaur. She was the daughter of Guru Amar Das. The Lanvan has 4 rounds.

You can read it's translation on Sikhnet in the book "Victory and Virtue". It is at the very end of the book...before the "Exerpts from Rehit Naama".

Becoming married is a big deal and your entire being seems to be aware of that.
Keep in mind that you are marrying God and Guru. Then pamper yourself. Relax, enjoy yourself....sing wahe guru.....take a bubble bath and soak and relax, drink more water. This is your special time. Make sure that you feel special and beautiful as a bride of God!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

God bless you.
Kiran