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Summary of Question:	What Can I Do.?
Category:	Sikh Practices
Date Posted:	Tuesday, 2/13/2001 8:51 AM MST

Sat Shri Akal...

i just wanted to know what i can do to help my mother....my mother has be sick for the past 5 yrs...everyday she ...has a new problem tat arises or a new pain tat starts..she prays a lot..and does a lot of Sukhmani Sahib..but nothing seems to improve..i ask her ..why isn't the praying helping and she alwayz answers with "its the praying that is keeping me alive so far"...i donno wat to do i can't see her in this pain ne more...i know no one can change God's plan but...still if someone prays tat much shouldn't ta make a difference,,
pls help
preety

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Preety, Sat Nam!

Your mother is probably right...it is the prayers which are keeping her alive. It is also the prayers which are also enabling her to finish her karma and healing before she can finally go home to God.

You know there is a difference between healing and curing. Curing is when someone gets better in the physical body, healing is when the soul and emotional body are freed. Your mother may not be cured of her pain, but the prayers are healing her...so that she will be ready to go home to God. Only God knows if she will be cured or healed.

I would suggest that you pray with her, and maybe do your own bani or path in your mother's honor. Reading Sukhmani Sahib or doing a Sahej Path could be very healing for your mother and for you. I don't know how close to death your mother is, but she may be just waiting for you to be more accepting of her leaving the earth plane. If you do some kind of path or reading, it will help your mother's healing and it will also help you prepare for what ever is God's will - either that she will be cured physically or that her body will leave the earth. Pray for your mother's liberation, that her soul will be freed once and for all. Pray for your own courage, to be able to accept God's will with peace of mind and heart.

You can also talk to your mother. Ask her if she is getting ready to go home to God. She may welcome the opportunity to talk about it. It could be a very intimate and special time together, to be able to pray and talk together, openly and honestly...about what she is going through. She may not want to talk to you, for fear of hurting you...or that you can't handle her death. And, if she is not preparing to go home, talk to her about her pain. If you want to email me directly, I would be happy to talk to you more.
In His Name and Grace, Guru Terath Kaur, [email protected]