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Summary of Question:	Prosititution/Strip Clubs
Category:	Sikh Practices
Date Posted:	Monday, 11/27/2000 10:56 AM MST

I am 32 year old solicitor from Bradford United Kingdom. About 2 years ago I got married, via an arranged marriage arranged by parents. I am sorry to say that before my marriage I slept with a lot of women (non-sikhs) as I used to out with friends to clubs etc. I have a turban a clip my beard a bit. Anyway since I got married, I havent had sex with anyone, not even my wife. She is very attractive, slim figure and we sleep in the same bed, but everytime I want to make a move she refuses. Otherwise we get on. I thought that this was a duty of a wife. I dont know why she doesent want to have sex with me. To be honest with you sex is very important to me and if I had known she would be like that I wouldent have agreed to marry her. I dont know what to do. Ive tried to talk to her but she ignores me. As you can understand I cant go to my parents about it or her parents, as they might think I'm a pervert. I have had alot of offers outside the marriage but I have resisited. Could you tell me what to do??

And also could you tell me if it is against our relgion to go to a prostitution for sex. (these type of women cannot be our sisters, mums or daughters can they??) Please could you rely as soon as possible.

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Greetings to you in the Name of God the light of every soul and in the Name of Guru the life of every Sikh.

The physical relationship of love making in marriage is a very sacred one. In the Sikh way of life, love making is reserved only for the married couple and considered devotional and special. Going to prostitutes or easy women, is not an option for a Sikh.

You said that you have been married for 2 years without any lovemaking. This is not a normal situation. Since I do not know anything about you or your wife, it is difficult to know what is happening in your relationship. I strongly reccomend that you seek out the aid of a trusted family member or a trusted doctor to help you work out your marital situation. It is not perverted to want to have love and coziness and a physical relations with your wife.

God bless you and keep up.