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Summary of Question:	Anger At My Father
Category:	Other
Date Posted:	Saturday, 12/03/2005 3:55 PM MST

I am 21 years old Sikh male. Ever since I was young, I have seen my father as alcoholic and abusive towards my mother. I still have emotional problems due to all the things I have been through in my childhood. Now that I am an adult, I have hard time having relationship with anybody because I never have experienced a healthy relationship. I am a lonely person who have fears even when somebody tries to come close to me. Now I am trying to get closer to Sikhi but I have intense anger at my father even though Sikhi forbids Krodh. I have hard time trying to get over all the things he put me through when I was little. Can you give me any suggestions on how to get over this anger and move on with my life?

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Spiritually, you can read from the Guru as much as possible. The Guru's bani can heal everything. I would also suggest that if you have a counselor available where you are that you go to one to help you release your anger and heal it. A good counselor can be like a coach to guide you through the process of knowing how to develop healthy relationships. You didn't get it as a child, so you will need to have someone help you reparent yourself, so to speak, to develop these skills. Let us know how you are doing. Blessings. GTKK