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Summary of Question:	Is It Wrong To Love B4 Marriage
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Thursday, 10/10/2002 9:35 AM MDT

sat siri akaal

i was jus wondering if it is wrong for people to fall in love b4 marriage. like i know that having flings is wrong, but what if you love someone and want the relationship to be long term and the other person feels the same? i know it is wrong by culture but what about religion does the baani say that 2 people cannot fall in love???
i am really confused by this .... so if you can kindly help me out here it will be greatly appreciated.

thank you so much

(REPLY) Sat Nam. I can't quote Gurbani on this one, but I can say for sure that "falling" in love before marriage is hazardous. You may want the relationshp to be "long term" -- but sometimes it works out, but more often it doesn't, and when that relationship breaks up, there are broken hearts and almost broken lives. True love takes time to develop, it's not the exciting, romantic thing we see in the movies, but marriage allows that real love to develop over time and grow stronger and more powerful -- and more enjoyable!
Emotions are strong when we're young and it's too easy to "fall in love" and think that it's the "real" thing. If it is destined to be a long term relationship, then why not marry???? Without firm commitment, there's no security in any relationship. I hope this may help a little. Blessings, SP