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Summary of Question: | Being Forced To Take Amrit To Be Married |
Category: | Love & Marriage |
Date Posted: | Friday, 4/28/2006 8:05 PM MDT |
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Sat nam. Your basic instincts are spot on correct. No one should take amrit before they feel consciously ready to do so. There are some Sikhs who believe that an amritdhari cannot marry an un-baptized Sikh. We take the view that this is extreme because it has the potential to force people to take Amrit who are not ready and that it was not the intent of the 10th Guru. Your boyfriend needs to ease up. And you must stand up for yourself on this rather than think it's Amrit or lose him. If you cannot agree on this fundamental aspect of Sikhi and your relationship, then perhaps you should reconsider what that means for marriage.
Amrit is not about 5 Ks for the sake of 5 Ks. It is a very sacred vow and there are karmic consequences of taking amrit and ignoring it or only following it superficially, which do not apply to unbaptized Sikhs. So don't take Amrit till you are ready!
PS: The first thing you probably need to do is come clean with your folks!
Guru ang sang,
-DKK