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Summary of Question:	Pessimism
Category:	Other
Date Posted:	Wednesday, 8/07/2002 1:53 PM MDT

Waheguru ji ka khalsa ,Waheguru ji ki fateh.

Its been a long time since I wanted to ask you this question . I know that people like you can solve my problem. From about 7 years I am realising that everything negative happens with me .All my wishes , my dreams have been ruined.
I am Mandeep Kaur. I am in college ( 1 year) . When we came to Delhi , I was a really different person . I had many dreams of achieving something in life . But now I think that's becoming very tough for me day by day . I am losing all the qualities in me . Now come to the physical beauty. First of all my height which is very short . I am just "4 feet 11 inches " tall . All my relatives , my friends everytime say that how small you look . Then my hair , I am losing them too.
My hair have become so thin that I feel ashamed in meeting people , & they ask me "why dont you cut your hair ""this will help you ." Although I tell them this is against my religion & I wont do this , they say look at your hair . This is the most difficult situation I have to face . I want to ask you that if our guru ordered his sikhs not to cut hair why do his sikhs have to face such problems? I am an amritdhari girl & I would never go against the orders of my guru . Earlier I had full faith in god . I thought he would help me overcome this problem &I did all possible medical treatments for my problems of height & hair . But not only this, now Iam having a lot more body pains that I cant work for more than 2 or 3 hours . Not only this , whatever I wish even of small things , I am always sure of not getting them & I really dont.
I even worked very hard in my 12 class but could'nt get admission in my choice of course. Now I sont think Ican get any job . I do my nitnem , sometimes Ido "Sukhmani Sahib " , path from "Guru Granth Sahib" ,but still I never find peace. Sometimes I try & do simran too but am not able to concentrate. Atleast once in a day I cry. My problems are endless and there is no solution to them .

After reading this you might be thinking that this is my perception or my negative thinking . That's what everybody tells me . But I was not the same always . Do you think I need a phsycological treatment or councelling ?
That's what I think . Just tell me what should I do . Iam going through a depression that why dont my guru or my god help me ? Does that mean that Iam a very bad person & god is punishing me or what?

With regards ,
waiting for your reply ,
Mandeep Kaur
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My dear Mandeep Kaur ji,

You sound stressed out! Stress is debilitating and depletes your body of vitamins and minerals, which would cause both tiredness and hair falling out etc. Depression is also a symptom of stress.

I would reccomend that you go to see a doctor and analyze your symptoms. You may be needing extra vitamin supplements and a lot more rest and a calming food diet.

You need some extra care....so please take care of yourself so you can blossom with the radiance of your youth!!!!

God bless you, SKKK