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Summary of Question:	Please!!!!!
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Sunday, 1/11/2004 1:54 PM MST

please help me

i asked this ? earlier and checked back everyday but no one responded

i really love this girl but the problem is she doesn't like me. she has a boyfriend. im 2 afraid to tell her how i feel cuz i know she does not like me. i know their will be uther girls but this girl is awesome, she has everything. she the only one i want :( i dont know wuat to do. please

(REPLY) Sat Nam. Sounds like this is a lost cause, but if you have to "do" something, then I suppose you could try to get acquainted with her. Make friends with her boyfriend, for one thing, find out what sort of activities she and he are interested in. In school, does she belong to any groups? But if she already has a boyfriend, he's not going to be happy if you try to get involved with her. You say you "really love this girl." Sorry, I think what you are feeling is attraction and infatuation. You are confusing your desire with love. True love is a really monumental thing, and is based on more than just admiration. Meanwhile, I know it's painful for you, because you are caught in your emotions. The smartest thing you can do is get over it! Get on with your life, and stop focusing on this one person as if she's the answer to your entire happiness in life! What career are you preparing for? One of the best ways to get over unhappiness is to find some person or some organization to help. Do seva at the Gurdwara. Are you reading your banis every day? The Guru's gave us a blue print for happiness, they gave us wisdom and guidance so we can be happy and fulfilled. You can get the entire Siri Guru
Granth Sahib on SikhNet website. Read it. Learn the purpose of your life and get a broader perspective so you can stop being miserable because of some other person. God bless you. SP