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Summary of Question:	True Or False Marrige
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Saturday, 8/30/2003 9:31 AM MDT

I HAVE BEEN ENGAGED FOR 5-6 YEARS AND NOW I'M GOING TO GET MARRY AT THE END OF THIS YEAR , THIS MARRIGE IS ARRANGED BY MY SISTER ,AND I REALLY DONT LIKE IT .BCOZI GOT A BF AND I WAS VERY MAD IN HIS LOVE , BCOZ OF THIS MY FEANCE WAS VERY UPSET ,HE USED TO LIVE WITHMY SISTER AND TELL HER HOW HE FEEL, AFTER ALL THAT HE GIVE UP ME AND HE FALLS FOR MY SISTER AND AFTER 1 YEAR HE ALSO GIVE UP MY SISTER BCOZ MY SISTER WAS ALREADY MARRIED AFTER 2 YEARS I MAKE UP MY MIND TO MARRY HIM , HE GIVE UP WHAT HE WAS DOING , BUT STILL I FEEL THAT HE LOVE HER NOT ME EVEN HE SAY HE LOVES ME I FEEL THAT HE IS LYING TO ME , AND NOW WE ARE GOING TO GET MARRY AND I DONT WANT TO SPOIL MY LIFE AFTER MARRYING A WRONG PERSON , CAN U PLS TELL ME WHAT SHOULD I DO , SHOULD I TRUST HIM OR BROKE THIS RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN ME AND HIM ?

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Sat Siri Akaal. This does not sound like a match made in heaven, nor does it sound like any of you should pursue each other anymore. Let your sister remember her marriage vows and you, please, practice Naam Simran daily and ask Guru to guide you to the appropriate marriage situation that does not have this kind of family intrigue going on. He does not sound like a man with a mind of his own, either.

Who is your sister that she is setting this up? What is her agenda on this? What is his? WHy on earth did he live with her? (That's weird.) I think if you marry this fellow you are all 3 of you asking for more emotions and commotions and heartache. Why are you afraid to say no to this ridiculous situation?
My dear, learn to think and live for yourself, rather than let others decide your life for you. Live and act like a Sikh, not someone else's puppet. Guru ang sang,
-DKK