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Summary of Question:	Being A Love And Scare Of Parents
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Saturday, 8/23/2003 5:47 PM MDT

sat sheri akal to all! i have a little problem that I want to share with here.. because i know "Sikhnet" webside is really help and it is really work.. my question is that....i have a b/f we are going out since more than 4 years.. and we really love each other and we really care each other... but i am so scared that how can i talk to my parents.. cos my parents they are really strick.. The guy i going out with him he is "Jatt" and i am "Ramgharia". so my parents they are so so so so so so so so strick about "Caste System"... i have my cousin sister she was going out with "jatt" guy too when my sister talked to their parents they said "no" and they guy who she going out with , guy parents said "No" cos of we arr "Ramghardia". that why now my cousin sister she is getting end up married with someone else in india... her parents arranged her marriage allready... THAT WHY I AM REALLY SCARED please gave me good advice how can i talk to my parents... cos i can't married with noone else... i will be die that time..... i love this guy very much i can't live without him.. me and my b/f we always think and talked about one topic "How can we talked to them" if we talked to them and they said "no" then what should we do? so please gave me some advice !! i really need help..................?

p.s> i'll be waiting for your advice and answer "satnam wahiguru"....!


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Wahe Guru Ji Ka Khalsa, Wahe Guru Ji Ki Fateh.

You are a Sikh and the Gurus banished the caste system from Sikhi many hundred years ago. There is no such thing as Jatt Sikh or a Ramgharia Sikh. Either you are a Sikh or you or not. It's that simple. Any Sikh can marry any other Sikh - caste has no meaning, no merit and no bearing.

My sincere and humble recommendation for you and your boyfriend is that you use your love to break through a system that the Gurus instructed us not to follow. There is no reason for your parents to deny you to get married based on caste. Stand firm with the man you love, and in the face of anyone protesting about caste, simply reply, "We are Sikhs of the Guru. And we don't need to be anything more than that." Stand before your Guru, commit to each other and let your love and your relationship have victory over traditions that meant nothing to our Gurus.

Meditate on your banis together to give you the strength to face the challenge and go through it with dignity and grace. And may the Guru carry you forward, tgoether, with love.

Love and blessings.

Wahe Guru Ji Ki Khalsa, Wahe Guru Ji Ki Fateh.

GPK