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Summary of Question:What Shall I Do?
Category:Love & Marriage
Date Posted:Sunday, 1/21/2001 7:29 AM MST

can you please Help me?, I am very close to my parents and feel that i could never ever repay them for what they have done for me. However with a slight regret they have recently been to India and done my Rishta!! ( with out me being there). Untill about 2 weeks ago i had no problems with this, but recently i have met a young sikh girl who seems to be a respectful, caring and fun to be with person. i have a feeling that she may want to take our friendship further!!, however i feel that this cannot happen simply because my parents have already done this rishta. I do not want to loose this friendship, but at the same time I do not want to hurt her!! (by giving the wrong signals) - at the momment my parents mean to much to me, and i could never tell them about this situation as it would break them. i have found myself in a mental dilema!! i have started my university life this year and with the grace of waheguru have been reciting jap ji sahib and rehraas almost every day. By reciting this bani i can feel gre

at. however at the same time i hope and feel that waheguru is constantly is looking over me, which makes me wonder if what i'm involved in is wrong. - I understand that this question is a bit long winded but I would really appereciate some help and advice from my brothers and sisters. Waheguru ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ke Fateh.
Wahe Guru.

Dear one, "Sanjog vijog doay kaar chalaageh...." meeting and separation is the will of God. The flow of emotions and feelings and the psyche are not interconnecting. It seems that you are getting cold feet. You have no real relationship with this new female Sikh acquaintence. You do have a relationship with your parents and their looking out for your future and making this rishta. The problem is not that you have met someone....the problem is that you have not been honest with your parents.

You must come to some neutral place in your understanding with your parents and how you would like to proceed with your marriage. You said that you accepted their rishta before meeting this young woman. So, what is the difference now? You do not even know if this new young lady wants to marry you?

Perhaps you should meet or talk to this Sikh Lady in India before you create any more duality and talk to your parents about what is happening with you. God and Guru are a part of this, let a real merger come to you which is free of karma.

God Bless you.

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