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Summary of Question:	Married But Alone’
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Wednesday, 9/29/2004 8:34 AM MDT

It’s for someone who replied to ‘Married but alone’

A comment was made - Unless her husband is alcoholic, abusive or has committed adultery; there is no reason for her to be stubborn and not do what her husband expects her to do i.e. to be ‘respectful’ towards his mother.

Yes, I agree that one should leave the ego behind and respect. But in return, the Mother-In-Law should respect the Daughter-In-law as well. If a husband can put a condition on his wife to love her only if she respects his mother, he can put a condition on his mother as well (ie to love his mother if she respects her Daughter-In-law).

If this does not happen- then I think this is an emototional abuse.


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Sat Siri Akaal. Any kind of conditionality on 'love' is emotional abuse. Keep that in mind. It is not 'loving' to set conditions on love. However, conditions or terms for staying together (love aside) and LIVING together (again, this does not involve love) are a different sort. I agree that it is legitimate to ask the Mother-in-law to respect her son's wife. I doubt he will request that, since his mother is his elder. Respect is not respect unless it is earned. Merely granting it without deserving it is not respect, it is manipulation. Seems no one in the household in question get that. Guru ang sang,
-DKK