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Summary of Question:	Are Unmarried Non-Virgins Bad People?
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Monday, 2/11/2002 2:45 PM MST

Hi,

I know this is a stupid question, but I am not a virgin, some of the

girls I have met on sikhnet are also not virgins, is it important to marry
a virgin, or not does it really matter, is it the persons heart that is important?, what is sikhisms stance on this subject?

If we are not virgins are we bad people?

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Sat Siri Akaal. While the ideal for Sikhs might be to be virgins before marriage, you can be assured that it is not a requirement to be Sikh or to be married. That would be practically impossible.

Unmarried non-virgins are not 'bad' people! Sex is NOT a sin. Sex out of lust is one of the 5 'enemies' or 'passions' that a Sikh is encouraged to learn to control. Sex outside of marriage is often called a "sin" but Sikhi does not consider non-virgins 'bad' people, although there is no shortage of people out there would consider you to be bad because of this.

Many grooms insist that their brides be virgins, but that is applied one-sidedly. It is certainly NOT Sikh to INSIST that a bride be a virgin.

Guru ang sang,
-DK