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Summary of Question:	Why My Mom Is Always Talking Bad About My Relationships
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Friday, 8/27/2004 5:33 PM MDT

wellll i dont see the reason why it is that my mom always has something bad to say about my relations with a man. i am 21 and my bf is 20. i have been with him for 1 year know and we spend alot of time togeher . we are both very hard workers and love life and feel the same love for eachother. my mom just met him today and ACTED al nice to him then she calls me later wjhile im at work and starts talking crap about how he is too young and he is not good looking and that hes got no personality and that i am forcing him to be with me. i would never do that . we really love eachother. we want to get married but not for a while when school is done. i got mad because she only met him for 1 hour at the mall on my lunch break. i cant belive that my own mom does this. see i work for my dad and she says "your fired if u stay with him" what do say to that? i have no idea. i look at it it this was.. money can be made at any job.. but love and finding someone who cares about you is ahrd to find these days . i live on my own scence i was 16 .. i do not let her control me. but i dont know what it is that mkakes parents say that crap to there own kids and if they see some other kid with a bf they say "oh how cute" ?????

(REPLY) Sat Nam. You say you live on your own, and have done so since you were 16 -- well, that shows that you have a lot of courage and a spirit of independence. What I'm wondering about it what made you leave home so young? I'm guessing that you didn't get along with your mother? If she doesn't control you, then the best I can suggest is that you simply bless her, don't argue with her, and continue to live your life as you choose. I hope among your choices is the choice to read your banis, recite God's name and go to Gurdwara so that you nourish your soul. You probably can't change your mother's attitude, and only she can tell you why she is negative about your boyfriend. If it really matters to you, you can ask her. Otherwise, I'd just let it be, and be polite and respectful to her, but ignore her negativity. May God bless you and Guru guide you with wisdom. SP