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Summary of Question:	Dealing With My Future In-Laws
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Monday, 5/27/2002 3:40 PM MDT

Sat sri Akaal...

I have done some semi-regular postings here and am very grateful for this forum. I'm hoping you all can help on a delicate matter.

I've just received word that my soon-to-be father-in-law is having some serious problems with the fact that his first son is about to marry me. I have been poor, and work for my living; whereas my fiance and all his siblings have university education at least to the master's degree level. Plus there is the matter that I have no living relatives. I have no idea why this is such a big deal; I didn't ask to be orphaned. It was very important to me to have the approval; I like and respect my man's father, but right now I feel insulted and a little on the "low-caste" side. Please tell me how best to handle this; or maybe just a few good ideas I can build on?

Thanks and blessings
Elizabeth

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Sat Siri Akal, Elizabeth.

Well-it's fairly simple. What your future father-in-law thinks of you is his problem, not yours. Don't buy into it. If he has issues of caste, wealth and education-then he's suffering from the poison of pride and the only way for him to get over this poison is to meditate. There's nothing you can do. You can neither save him from his pride nor can you act in a certain way to sooth his pride. By all means, be respectful, but don't take this too seriously. In your life, you will always find people who try to blame something on you when really their problem is that they haven't dealt with their own subconscious nonsense. There's nothing you can do to satsify them, so the best is to leave it and satisfy yourself. Be beautiful, happy, bountiful, blissful-enjoy your life to the fullest because the human birth is the most precious brith and every breath is God's gift to you. Enjoy every single one, and focus on your own happiness.

The only way your father-in-law can hurt you is if you secretly agree with him that you're not "good enough" for your future husband So focus on knowing how good you really are, meditate to clear out your own insecurities, and just smile at the play of life.

Good luck and God bless.

GPK