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Summary of Question:	Husband's Behaviour
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Sunday, 2/18/2007 10:08 PM MST

i m here to need help to save my marriage to at the same time help my family. i belong to middle class n religious jatt sikh family. i got married last year and i know how my parents arranged money for my wedding. i m in U.S rite now. my husband in on H1B visa so i cannt work here. i have done physical therapy waiting for my degree.during first year of our wedding me n my husband has seen so much. i got sick just after 3 days of our wedding. my hubby took kare of me n did every possible thing to make me comfortable. i thought my hubby really loves me n i m most important person in his life but i was wrong. later on i realised that he calls his parents everyday n tells them that i m lazy, fat, careless n lack ambition. my mother told me this as my in-laws conveyed this to my family saying tell ur daughter to improve otherwise our son will divorce her.i m devastated not knowing wat to do and how to react to this akward situation. other prob is that my brother is an year younger to me.me being elder sister i m obviously concerned about his future. so wen i asked my husband for help so that i can call him here he flatly refused saying concentrate on me instead of ur family. i m really depressed. plz help me.

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My dear,
You do really need to work on yourself. Your husband needs you to be strong and UNEMOTIONAL and steady and supportive and loving. This is your role in the marriage. Guru describes this in so many ways.

There is a shabd in Shabd Hazare,,,,,,,"eeanere-ay manaraa kaaeh karey.........". You should read this and get to know the meaning. You can find it in the section on "Shabds for printing". Recite it 11 time every day.

Start every day by doing your Path, Jap ji, and Jaap Sahib etc. And in the evening after you cook his food, recite rehiras. When you are spiritually strong and supported, then your husband
will feel your strength and feel supported and you will find the happiness you crave..

Start immediately!!!