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Summary of Question:	Please Pray For Me!
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Tuesday, 5/08/2007 6:00 AM MDT

Sat Siri Akal jee! I am a simple girl from a middle class family, approaching the 30th year of my life. I have 3 younger sisters, and they are all of marriagable age. I met a guy through a matrimony site, and invited him and his parents to visit mine. The meeting went off well, this was mid of last year. Then my parents took time to decide, and that dampened the guy's spirits. Then my parents conveyed their assent, and since then I have been in contact with the guy through phone calls and msgs. He has assured me that his parents would call up pretty soon and finalise our alliance, but I feel they are still not sure of us, and maybe they are sad about the initial delay from my parents' side. Now my parents are pressurising me to get the guy to finalise this or else look for someone else. I really love this guy, he is a thorough gentleman, and his family is a real nice one. They are simple, Godfearing people, and the guy has given me the strength to do nitnem and other paaths on a regular basis. I have been doing Dhan Dhan Ramdas Guru shabad since more than 90 days, in addition to Sukhmani Sahib and Aukhi Ghadi shabad, but somehow I am feeling scared of losing him.. I love him immensely, and if this does not work out, I would lose faith in everything.. Please, please, please, everyone out there, in the name of Waheguruji, please say a prayer for me, I really need it.. Thanks everyone!

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Dear one,
you are so devotional and applying yourself in prayer. Now, you MUST relax and give over your emotion to devotion in love to Guru.

Read Jap Ji Sahib in English and get the benefit of filling your mind with the message of the Guru. "why do you fear oh my mind?" You will see what Guru says.

We are all in the hands of God and GUru.You have become attached to one outcome. That will come in time. When you have the alliance then you will fear something else. And so you will continue with your emotions and doubt throughout your life.

Now, is the time to learn how to break this cycle of doubt and worry. All is perfect, you are perfect. Everything that is happening is perfect. Take your time now to experience the joy of your single life. Be happy exactly as you are. Guru's says that when you are a virgin you long to become married and when you are married you long to become a virgin again.

So, the conclusion....work on yourself and find the ways to smile, be happy and resist the worry and doubt. Go do Yoga, study meditation, take up lessons in Kirtan, start swimming laps or do a course in running. Get busy having fun and continue your PATH and just add reading Jap Ji Sahib in English so your mind can quiet itself.

Much love to you,
SKKK