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Summary of Question:	Im Dating A Muslim Boy
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Wednesday, 3/30/2005 4:32 PM MDT

hi i cudnt really be bothered to look through the questions to find a similar problem to mine sorry! but i have been dating an afghan muslim for a whole year now, im 16 and hes 18 im absolutely crazzy about him but my mum n brother found out about him. They are totally against muslims n now my mother keeps saying that hes a refugee n hes only in it for the money and my brother is like a thug n he says things that scare me like hes gunna kill my b.f n how he doesnt want a sista thats tainted n lost her v to a muslim (that wont happen coz i made it pretty clear that i blieve in sex afta marriage) my bro is making me choose between him n my man. Now they keeping me on lockdown! what the hell do i do???

(REPLY) Sat Nam. You won't like my reply. But, here goes: You "cudn't really be bothered" to look up other replies? Yeah, at 16 all you care about is satisfying your emotions, and letting other people do the work? Listen kid, I'll tell you "what the --- you do," and that is grow up! And that takes time. The hardest thing for people your age is to have patience, but that's what you need. You are only 16, and you think you know it all (most of us think we know it all at that age, but believe me, we don't!) Between now and two years from now, many things can change. The most important thing in life is not boyfriends. Marriage is a major commitment for life, and means raising a family, etc. etc. If you really are meant to marry this Muslim boy, see if within two years of NOT seeing each other, you still both feel the same. Your brother and your mother are trying to guide and protect you. Listen up -- and stop being a spoiled brat who wants her own way. Do you have any interest in, or awareness of what it means to be a Sikh woman? Do you have any idea what the purpose of life actually IS? Do you understand that life on Earth is a temporary SCHOOL where we have the opportunity to pay off our karma and consciously contact the source of Life, which is our own Soul? Do you ever realize that God is breathing in you? Did it ever occur to you that you have a beautiful soul that is (apparently) buried under a ton of emotions and mistaken ideas. At 16 you don't even know who you are as a person. May God bless you with wisdom and common sense, and Guru guide you and give you some humility to give thanks for the privilege of being alive -- the opportunity we humans have to connect with God, so that when we eventually die, we do so fearlessy, gracefully, and consciously. SP