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Summary of Question:	Re: Lady With Leucoderma
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Thursday, 4/29/2004 8:41 PM MDT

Sat Nam.

From a recent posting:

Do not assume that you are non-marriageable!!! Many women around the world, who were born with all kinds of handicaps,
are married. The leucoderma is no big deal; remember that it could always be worse! Do not rely on your parents to find you a
match. Be active in local youth volunteer activities and sangat sevas, and find yourself a sardar who appreciates you for who
YOU are, blemishes and all. Guru ang sang,
-DKK"

First, DKK, you rock, and so do the rest of you moderators.

Dear sister, any man who would reject your outside before checking out the you inside, is no man at all, and not worth worrying over. Consider the Christian minister, Joni Eareckson Tada, who became paraplegic as a teenager in a swimming accident. This woman, who has no use of her arms, can paint Michaelangelo under the table, with the brush in her mouth! And I understand she is happily married to a man who loves the artist and minister that Joni is, and does not look upon her as one stuck with a disability.

Another moderator once pointed out to me that there were far bigger things in life than all the stuff on the outside, and the stuff we can't control. (Thanks SP!) Go out and just be real. Honesty, a good heart and sense of humor are far better cosmetics than anything off a drugstore shelf, and are cheaper at that. The man who goes for those qualities, and has them himself, is a real man. And happy hunting!

Blessed be,

Elizabeth

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So true, and let us not forget the best story of all, the story of Bibi Rajni!

Bibi Rajni Ji

In the era of Guru Ram Das, one cannot leave out Rajni, youngest daughter of Rai Duni Chand, revenue collector (kardar) of Patti. (The story has all the myth, magic and miracles of a genuine Sakhi, but is nevertheless a charming story). Rajni was a Sikh, a disciple of the Guru. One day she was sitting with her sisters admiring some new clothing they all had received from their father. The girls were ecstatic and exclaiming how good their father was to them. Rajni observed that all gifts are ultimately from God. Their father was merely an instrument of His greatness.
Unfortunately for her, he overheard her comment and became very angry.

It was not the First time that she incurred his wrath because of her extreme piety. The infuriated father, believing her to be an ungrateful wretch, married her to a leper with a taunt that he would see how her God would help her lead a normal life. The leper was severely disfigured and a foul smell came from his body. The poor girl had accepted her fate ungrudgingly and worked hard to maintain herself and her crippled husband. She kept repeating the name of God, and was certain that he was testing her with this turn of events. She was forced to beg for a living. Still she bathed and fed her leper husband, never losing faith. One day, she reached the site of a pool on her way to a neighbouring village. Placing the basket containing her husband by the side of the pool, she had gone otf on an errand, most probably to look for food. In the meantime, her crippled husband had seen a black crow dip into the water of the pool and come out white. Amazed at this miracle, the man crawled up to the edge of the pool and managed a dip. He found himself completely cured. When his wife returned, she was amazed to find her husband in good health. He was handsome and whole. At first, she was alarmed and suspected that he might be a different person. He had, however, kept one finger with leprosy marks un-dipped. He showed her the diseased finger as proof of his identity. The couple thanked God, and went to the Guru to seek his blessings.

The pool was the future site of the Golden Temple. The medicinal properties of the water were said to have come from Basil (Tulsi), which grew in abundance on its banks. Guru Amar Das used to pick the herb there to make poultices for an infected toe that plagued Guru Angad. The legendary importance of the site highlights the medicinal properties of the waters of the pool, Rajni's leper husband was cured in. Sakhi relates that if you keep faith in God then one day all rewards are paid. Bibi Rajni had always kept the faith in Guru and God, being happy with whatever she had and thus was rewarded at the end.

Story reproduced here with premission from the book "Champion of Women" by Alice Basarke.