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Summary of Question:	Help Me !
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Monday, 12/23/2002 11:24 AM MST

waheguru ji

i really need help..by guru's kirpa i m practicing sikhi..and trying to walk on path of sikh and truth..guru ji is taking my test on every step..:)..i always look for hukamnama..at the amritvela..this morning i was doing the same..my mom came to me..and yelled at me..we dont have to see hukumnama..we r not going in this line .. this is not for us..this and that..then dad came to me..i tried to ignored him..he shut off the comp..i ignored and tried to go in the room..he pulled my hand..and tried to slap me..they don't understand..they think that someone is putting me on the wrong directions..and when i tell them that that someone is guru and waheguru..they don't believe..then after that this morning..i went to my room[never slept in my room for one year..used to sleep with my young sis]..my mom forced me to go to my sis room..but i didn't..then on last sunday..they took me to the my mom's family...they told them about me..then they kinda forced me to eat egg..but ididn't..now my whole family is on my case..i don't want to be week..what should i do..they have stoped me to everything..going to my gursikh friends..cuz they don't like them..they belive that this is all whole dhong[showup]..they think the hukamnama we get to brainwash people..this isnot sikhi..my mother is always on my case..when she says that ur guru will give u this..go there this and that..for u there is other and different waheguru and guru..guru won't give u this and that..then i get soo angry..[guru's kirpa i control my anger]..all i do sit and smile..or sometimes i say..why u wanna fight me..why r u doing this..plz help m e..what should i do ???
thankyou

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You are asking a very difficult question. I can understand your longing for your spirituality and connection to the Guru, on the other hand, I don't want to tell you to go against your parents. It is a very difficult situation you are in. Part of it depends upon how old you are. If you are under age, you have to stay in your parent's home and at least try to make peace in the home. You can always be true to your Guru in your heart. No one can ever take that away from you. You will have to be discrete about your practice to maintain the peace in the home. If you are not under age and have the opportunity to move in with a friend or aother family member, who is more sympathetic and understanding of your heart's longing for the Guru, then you could do that.

My parents were very upset when I became a Sikh and tried their best to force me to abondon my spiritual longing. But, I was 22 years old and could live where I wanted. I joined an ashram where others wanted to pursue what I did. Over time, my parents realized that I wasn't crazy and that my spiritual endeavors were good for me. Now, they respect my lifestyle and choices. But, it wasn't easy at first. I had to be very strong and follow what I knew was best for me and my destiny in life. May Guru give you the courage to follow your soul's longing. If you want to write me privately my email is [email protected]. GTKK