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Summary of Question:	Can You Tell Me How A Muslim And Sikh Person Can Be Accepted
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Sunday, 3/09/2008 9:46 AM MDT

sasrikalji,

please can you advise on how a muslim and a sikh couple can be accepted within the sikh community respectfully, we as a couple have been togather for the last 13 years-very happy and in love, could you please tell me if their is any conditions or if there is anything saying that anyone who is in love cannot be togather. and what a person needs to do to be accepted within the sikh family.

our families do not know but we have married in the muslim way, we both accept and respect each others religion and do practice in our own ways.

if both of us accept the way we are -how can we make our families understand, could you please advise me on this as we don't want any conflicts within our families. would it be best if we both came into the gudwara and let someone from the gudwara explain to the families.

we dearly love each other and don't want to split up over this as we cannot accept seperation. this would destroy both of us.

please could you guide us on this as we both want to do this without shaming the familes and want to do this in a respectful manner.
we know that what we have done isn't right as at the time love does not reconize what religion we are bot from- surely this cannot be a crime that we have committed that both of us have to be punished for.
i look forward to hearing from you


thank you


from sunny

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Sat Nam Sunny. You say that you are married and that you have been together for 13 years. How is it possible that your families don't know? Are you in a different country than they? Anyway, that is a bit confusing.

Marriage is sacred. If you are married and happy and want to stay together, then accept that as the bottom line here. Now, the next part is how to get your families to accept it. You may never be able to get them to accept it. Is that OK with you? When I became a Sikh, my family disowned me. I went about living my life and being true to myself. Over time they came around and accepted me and my husband.

It is important to be truthful and not to live a lie. You need to tell them. The best is to tell them in person...otherwise in a letter or by phone...or a combination, like letter to introduce it, then phone and then in person. Come from your heart and speak truthfully. Let time heal and keep your heart open...but go on with your life and be true to your self.

Many blessings to you, JJK