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Summary of Question:	Talking To Parents About Amrit
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Monday, 6/12/2006 4:07 PM MDT

Thank-you for having such a wonderful forum for answering sikhi-related/life-related questions. I was wondering if you could help me out with a small dilemna. My mom wants me to marry a man who is amrit dhari, therefore she has been constantly asking me if I am willing to take amrit. At this point in time, I do not want to. I have told her this and that I will not take amrit just to marry someone. She gets offended, which I do not understand why. She takes it personally and will not talk to me. Can I do anything about this? I don't like facing her wrath, or her not talking to me. How can I better the situation? Right now I am feeling really depressed and just unworthy as a human being. My dad says that I should consider this marriage prospect, but I have told him the same thing. What shall I say, if what I do say makes them upset or my mom mad at me? I'd really appreciate your help. Thank-you so much.

WJKK WJKF!

(REPLY) I think the important question is whether or not the prospective husband, and his family are willing to have the marriage take place if you are not Amritdhari? Taking Amrit is a great blessing, it is not just a ritual, and it gives you the strength of Guru Gobind Singh to carry in your life. However, I never believe anyone should take Amrit unless they want that blessing, and understand what it means to be Khalsa. I'm auew youe Parents want the best for you, so what you need to find out is their reasoning behind their insistence. When you give your head to the Guru, then the Guru arranges your affairs and it is such a marvelous opportunity to surrender the ego. There's much more that could be said, but I think you might try reciting Jaap Sahib (if you're not already doing so) several times a day, as well as chanting the "mantra for a miracle" Dhan Dhan Ram Das Gur -- and then see how you feel. In your prayers, and thoughts, send love and gratitude to your parents, and don't argue with them. Work on yourself to understand where you are at. May God bless you and Guru guide you on the path of righteousness. SP