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Summary of Question:	Caste
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Friday, 8/02/2002 3:15 AM MDT

Waheguru ji ka Khalsa

Waheguru ji ki Fateh,

I would first off like to say that this service you provide is very valuable to youth around the world. I need an opnion over what I should do in case of myself wanting to marry a girl outside my caste. First off I am blessed with Gurus' ways as I grew my kesh and have followed the sikhi way of life to the best of my ability. I do my japji sahib,rehrass and kirtan sohila everyday and find much inner peace when I recite waheguru's name. My dilemma is that now that I have finished University and I have a good job and I met a girl over a year and a half ago that I share many values with and we have much respect for each other. I told my parents about this girl and how much I have in common with her and how I find myself falling in love with her and wanting to get married to her. I guess we have been going out with each other but always worry what our respective families will think when we tell them. We have different backrounds in terms of caste e.g she is Jatt and I am khatri/Bappeh. My parents think that marrying out of caste may cause some issues and they are fine with it but worry what my GP will have to say about it. I believe and so does my gf that caste has no place in sikhi and we all are god's children and our last names have no bearing on if we shoulod get married. It really bothers me that everyone calls themself a sikh and yet believes in the very thing(Caste) our Guru's set to abolish. I think that if I love and respect my gf and she respects me than I see no problem. I do not care what others think and hope what I am doing is right in God's wisdom. This girl is also one year older than me which is also causing my parents to question and constantly they ask me if I am sure. To me age is just a number and my gf and I connect at a very deep level. My gf was not very relgious when we met but as time goes on she finds much peace in reciting Guru's name and I am happy that I never forced her to be as relgious as me but gave her the option tp be and she now recites Waheguru's name more than she ever used to. So I just need your opnion please on what I should...it would be greatly aprecaited.

Singh

ANSWER: you know it is fun to see people answer their own questions... you say that to you and your GF caste and age is of no matter..as it should be...so you have your answer focus on the positive and not the negative..ask all for blessings and love each other as true sikhs devoid of caste.

SSM