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Summary of Question:	Re:Broken Hearted
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Monday, 1/03/2005 2:39 PM MST

hi there,

very sorry to hear about your experience, its very tough, i went through the same thing. he got married about one year ago and im still finding life tough without him. i tried everything from getting myself into sikhi, changing jobs, making a new set of friends, going out more often with friends, taking up new hobbies - but nothing really helped.

but, things are getting better. why? because im now living for other people and not for myself. i mean i was not selfish before, but we always care about about ourselves and our problems rather than other peoples. now i put other people before me - i worry more about their problems, if something good happens to them i am more happier than they are. i try my best to help people whenever i can, i am trying even harder than before to be a true friend to my friends, i am valuing my family a lot more.

this may sound very strange but its working for me, because i forget about myself when im doing this. however, you need to understand that in doing all this you can't neglect yourself. i am also feeling emotionally a lot happier because i am valueing people in my life rather than materials. so what if i did not get him, life goes on, god has made someone for me and i know i shall find him one day. maybe this guy was not right for me thats why god separated us, whatever has happened i believe that one day i will look back and say- i am glad we did not get together.

i hope this helps you in some way.

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Thank you for your reply.
-DK