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| Summary of Question: | Betrayed And Still In My Marriage |
| Category: | Love & Marriage |
| Date Posted: | Monday, 6/14/2004 9:28 AM MDT |
Sat sir akal,
I've written to you before regarding about my husband affairs.It's been awhile since i've written to you.Yes,i'm still with him cause my kids are very important to me esp, their education.I do not want to ruin their lives.My daughter loves her father too much.I cannot bear to see her cry everyday.we had a conversation lately...i told him to leave me n that he is free to go wherever
he wants to but he insists to stay for the kids.He has change alot though but i don't trust him at all.He has also said that he is not goona let her go.I know that you must be thinking that i'm afool to put up with this...but i've kids with me and i will not do anything to hurt them.when will my prayers be answered.Why is baba ji taking so long to hear my cries.I hope and pray god have mercy on us.please do pray for my kids!!
thank you
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So, you two are still together 'for the sake of the children' who now have a lousy role model for married life and get to absorb the mistrust and dislike you two have for each other. In the USA where I live we believe it is more harmful to the kids to stay together when the parents' mutual trust is gone and the betrayals continue.
But we have laws that support that, and requirements of child support for the parent who doesn't get custody, or we require joint custody if there is a divorce. If you are in a position to go this route where you live, then I recommend it. Otherwise, you have made a choice to stay, so it's gonna play itself out. Pray to Babaji for strength to live in this mode and finish the karm, or the courage to change it for the better of all concerned. I suggest you read Sukhmani daily, if you can. Guru ang sang,
-DKK
Betrayed And Still In My Marriage (06/14/2004)