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Summary of Question:	Please Save My Marriage
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Wednesday, 12/14/2005 7:50 PM MST

I did talked to my hubby about having a baby. He said god knows when to give. I know he wants baby but he is not making the effort. As I know the best time to conceive is after mensus (during the fertility). I think the chances are higher. I explained this to my hubby and ask for his cooperation. But don't know why each time when the day comes we always have arguments. It just happened ..Most of the time he start it off (but he will not aware of the day). Sometimes I remind him and he disregard.

From the day he cut his hair, he is not talking to me. We sleep separately. He sleep on the floor in the room. If I aksed him to sleep on the bed.... we will end up arguing. He is so sturbborn. There's no such thing as Counselling to my hubby. Because he always think that he is right. He is so confident of himself. Infact my hubby does counselling for others. He always do not want to understand me.

Could you please tell me where can I find the Sahabd "Dhan Dhan" and it is on which page ? He is blaming me for his action.

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You can find Dhan Dhan Ramdas Guru on page 259 in the Shabd Kirtan book. I dona't know the page in the Siri Guru Granth Sahib. This shabd is for miracles.

Well, I am going to be very direct with you here. It is my opinion that you need to look at your marriage...and do so before you have children. From what you have said, it sounds like this man is unwilling to compromise and make any effort to make the marriage work. Is that true? So, then you need to decide...do I want to spend the rest of my life in that kind of a marriage? Can I find enough good about the marriage to make it worth while for me? Is it better to get out of the marriage now before children? Do I want to bring a child into a marriage like this? I know these are hard questions, but they need to be asked and answered by you...honestly. It sounds like any compromise and change will have to come from you, only. Is that OK with you? Be honest with your self now before you get pregannt and bring a child into the world. Maybe the Guru is protecting you by not getting pregnant until you answer some questions within yourself. Blessings. Let me know what you decide. GTKK