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Summary of Question:	Urgent: Job Stress
Category:	Health
Date Posted:	Monday, 2/07/2005 1:13 PM MST

My husband changed jobs four months ago to work at his dream company. He took a position a level below his previous position because he wanted to get into this large company. Now he is at the verge of quitting his job because of job stress. The stress is attributed to several things but mainly because the workload his supervisor puts on him. He is literally doing the work of three individuals. When he took over his new position he didn’t receive appropriate training, the people in his department are not friendly to him, and he receives no assistance from anyone when he does fall behind due to tests not going right at work. The supervisor just keeps loading him with work. Everyone at his work knows he is a accomplished researcher (btw, my husband is in the science field) who achieved high at his previous company, and we believe that they are jealous that my husband will achieve higher in this large company. Everyone in the company has been there for at least six years and they are not happy to see someone new succeed. I don’t know what to do to help my husband. He can’t just quit this job and find another one because the other companies are going to ask why he quit his job from this large and reputable company. Is there any path he can do so his stress decreases and people become kind and helpful to him? Please advice as soon as you can because my husband my quit his job any day now.

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Sat Nam. I'm sorry your husband is under such stress. Short of quitting, the answer to this stress relief is, over and over, make time for Guru. Sit together and practice the Naam. Breathe deeply and mentally recite Waheguru. The more you practice the Naam, the more relaxed and intuitive you will be, and this will give you the mental space to know what to do, or to handle the workload. This may also give your husband the insight to know how to reject the workload and do what he was hired to do. Because regular simran creates a meditative, clear mind.
Nothing is ever always the other's fault. It takes 2 to tango, as we say, and this means that whether he is aware of it or not, this situation is as much your husband's responsibility as the company's.
Also don't create a reality that says "they will ask why he left such a reputable company." That is only one view. It could be other companies in the industry of your husband's company have a completely different take. If you consciously let go of it and give it to Guru in your simran to fix the situation as He sees appropriate, he will. Do not let your (joint) fears govern your life, that is not the SIkh way. Guru ang sang,
-DKK