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| Summary of Question: | M I Doing Right? |
| Category: | General Sikhism |
| Date Posted: | Wednesday, 9/04/2002 9:34 PM MDT |
i have one question regarding what i feel..what i feel that i m the only person who knows a lot about sikhi..then my family members..they r not into that..and i have one younger sis...she doesn't know n e thing about sikhi..so when ever she tell me something wrong about sikhi..i laugh..and i correct her..is my laughing wrong..cuz it means that i making fun of her..i m not gursikh but i know about sikhi..and also..and when my sis say something wrong about sikhi..i feel soo bad and angry..then i explain her..but with a anger tone..u know what i mean..m i doing something wrong here..i know i shouldn't be angry ... and plus arguing about sikhi..is murkta..cuz as guru ji said that person who argues about sikhi with other person is a murkh..i heard that and i read that....plz let me know..and thankyou to answer my previous question..
rubh rakha
REPLY:
So are you doing this because you want her to be wrong or for you to be right?
It is important if you love a person or even in the case of if you are correcting something that you do it in a manner that teaches. Arrogance and being cruel is not the answer... Being gentle is. The best of course is to become the student as well and walk the other person down the path together sort of like... let us both explore. You may discover that you will learn something as well. For each of us - student and teacher constantly change and learn from each other.
People listen to knowledge presented as a discovery. Knowledge presented with intent to make the other person wrong makes a mockery of you the teacher and diminishes the value of the knowledge as the student or recipient on focuses on the delivery not on the message. Be gentle and kind... teach as you would want to be taught - with gurus grace.
Remember she is your sister you are supposed to treat her with love and in turn if you do this right she will respect you. If you laugh at her she may also at some point laugh back at you ... then where will you be?
SSM
M I Doing Right? (09/04/2002)