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Summary of Question:	Dealing With Sadness
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Thursday, 6/13/2002 3:41 PM MDT

Sat-Sri-Akaal,

I am not asking a question today but am writing my slef-experience. To all those people out there who either have a bf or a gf leave them and are very sad. Or have lost someone they loved by any means. I recently broke up with my gf. I had been with her for more than 3 years. I had full intentions of marrying her. Well, I was very sad when I broke up with her. I remained like that for quite some time...not very long but maybe about a month. Then I thought to myself that I have two choices. Either I could remain sad and keep thinking of her or I could step outside of the picture, look at my situation and learn something from it. It is said that we often learn from our mistakes. In other words...we learn from whatever goes wrong with us in our lives. What is wrong to us??? Things that we don?t like or don?t want happening to us are wrong. So I thought, I?m in love with this person and am attached to her so much that I?m feeling very sad when she is parting from me. What will happen when it will be time for me to part from my own body??? We, not knowingly, love and are attached to our body so much that we forget that one day we will have to part from it as well. We are here in this life form for only about 80 years. For me about 20 years have already gone by. Only about 60 years of my life are left. But that?s not for granted also. I look back and think of what I?ve gained and what I have lost in these 20 years. I have gained pain and a bit of suffering. I have lost 20 years but not quite, since I?ve learnt something also. Pain is gain. As its said..."dukh daaru, sukh rog bhaya." All this only makes sense to us when we go through something bad happening to us. But take your bads as a good thing. Anyway...saying all this is easy but going through it is very hard. But I?ve been through some roughness so I am not only just saying it. Don?t think of why you should hold on to your memories rather think why you should let them go. I don?t know if that sentence made sense to you or not. But we should learn not to attach ourselves to this world and the worldly matters. Girl friends, boyfriends, wives, husbands and families are all attachments. Learn to let them go and you will feel the presence of the infinite. I am only writing what I feel. I would like some views on what you have to say. Please don?t post this if it makes no sense at all.

Thank you.

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Sat Siri Akal.

Thank you for sharing your wisdom and experience with the rest of the forum. Guru has blessed you with a very beautiful insight quite early in life. May you keep walking in the spirit of Cherdi Kala.

Sincerely,

GPK