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Summary of Question:	Reply- Dying Father
Category:	General Sikhism
Date Posted:	Tuesday, 2/25/2003 8:33 AM MST

I am sorry that you have to go through all of this. I can't figure out how old you are, im guesssing you may still be in your teen years (16-19)I am also glad that my father has been great to us, but still very sad that you didn't get the relationship a father and daughter should have. Maybe this is your chance. I am 22, i'm my daddy's princess, monetary i'm independent, in college, creating a future, but im still and will always be my parents little princess. I dont mind that they treat me that way. What i say here is my opinion, i dont wish to offend anyone. Dear friend, i want to tell you that please be there with your father, but don't hurt your sister, she may feel betrayed since she has been the mother figure. She may also need you, you need to balance things out, he is your father and who knows he may make himself a better person now. Sometimes a life changing event opens one's eyes. You need to tell your sister that you appreciate everything she has done for you. But let her know that you still feel loyal to your father. She will understand, once the emotions are calmed down a bit. You may also want to hold her hand and let her vent, let her let go of her inside, she may feel better once she can speak her mind. Speaking or writing your emotions is therapy. My heart hurts when i read your posting. I wish i could help you in some way, if noething else, i could lend a shoulder or a set of ears to jus pour everything out. Its sad that your brother and other sister are lost. But everybody deals with their Karma, deal with yours and pray that your siblings come on the right path. I can't help crying, a child should never have to suffer the way you have and your siblings have. Rape for a girl is the most violating event that can ever happen. Please, i dont mind listening to you, you can email me anytime @ [email protected]. You dont have to share ur name or anything, i can be a set of listening ears.

lastly, dont let go of your father or your sister. They both have their own place and importance. But keep your eyes open, try to make decisions with your mind and not your heart. Its hard to differentiate things, and its really hard not to feel what u want to feel, its hard to face reality. You dont have to face it alone. I'm here if you need it. Please pray to waherguru and thank him for your sisters love and your fathers life. He will guide you, please don't loose faith in Waheguru ji, im confident he will guide you. Please dont hesitate to email me [email protected] there's a underscore between jewel and kaur
God Bless you!