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Summary of Question:	Realtionship Dilema
Category:	Love & Marriage
Date Posted:	Tuesday, 4/08/2008 11:43 PM MDT

Fateh ji!

i am a regular reader here and have found good answers here too. i have a question i cldnt find so i m asking it.
i lived in delhi till abt 2 years ago now i m in the states. i have a girlfriend in india. we were together in college and have been together for about 5 years now.
our relationship was strong and before i left india i made sure both our parents agreed to our matrimony in the future.
about 6-8 months ago, suddenly i have started getting the feeling that we are not meant to be together and i should call off our relationship but i have not found a valid reason or guts to do so.
i have several faults in myself which i have identified. i suspect her, i read her facebook messages, ask who she talks to etc etc. all this i have never done before. she is also a little upset about it but hasnt said anything. she says she likes me and wants to get married soon.
another thing that has happened is, since i came to usa, i have been calling her frequently, on the other hand, in these 2 years, she has called me only about 5 times.its not a monetary issue as she is working in an MNC and is from a decent family too. i fail to understand why i feel there is a lack of effort for the relation from her. i feel she isnt contributing as much and i m dragging it. but she also never says anything like quitting.
i dont know wat to do
help me pls!

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It is very difficult to have a good long-distance relationship. When will you be seeing her again? Maybe she needs to come to the US for a while or you go to India for a while to get to know each other face-to-face. Marriage is a huge decision...one not to rush into. If you are having doubts, it is better to get to know each other better now, before it is too late and both of you get hurt. Blessings, JJK