Previous PreviousNext NextAsk a Question Ask a Question

Sikhnet Youth Forum Sikh Youth - Question and Answer Forum

Summary of Question:Sex
Category:Love & Marriage
Date Posted:Saturday, 1/27/2001 6:31 PM MST


I have done something wrong. I am 16 and just yesterday I lose my virginity to a 21 year old. I have known him for a long time. He used to go to my school. What am I supposed to do? I dont regret doing it because my other Indian friends have sex too. Can you tell me if god will forgive me?

Do you forgive yourself? Are you saying that it is O.K. because other people do it?

The problem is that, you have allowed the actions of others to be your guide rather than the teachings and experiences of our meditative lifestyle. Our Sikh way of life is a formula of getting to know how to deal with your own feelings and emotions and living your true purpose as a human being.

Our methodology is to know and experience your truth. God is within you. Your grace is within you. Your power and joy in life rests on your becoming aware of how to live your life consciously and purposefully.

You asked if God will forgive you.....God will always love you and give you another chance. The question is, will you give yourself a chance? Everyone makes mistakes in their lives. The challange is to not make that mistake again. If you can use the pain of this experience to change your direction and use it to start building your love and kindness for yourself...then you will have benefitted.

Can you imagine your life being something other than a series of painful experiences and mistakes?

Be kind to yourself! Close your legs and open your nose to breathe deeply every time you feel angry, upset or self destructive. Read from the Guru daily(in English)....and breathe deeply in the One Minute Breath meditation that I am giving you to do.

Inhale deeply through your nose for 20 seconds. Hold this breath for 20 seconds Then slowly exhale through the nose for 20 seconds. Repeat this for 31 minutes. You can start with smaller intervals and work your way up to 20-20-20. You can also use "wahe Guru" or "Sa-ta-na-ma" to recite mentally to keep your meditative focus. Close your eyes during this meditation. Your eyes should be focused at the tip of your nose.

Do this meditation for the next 90 days without break. Each time you do it, lie down onto your back afterwards and deeply relax. Feel the loving and guiding presence of Mata Sahib Kaur inside of you and all around you in a protecting shield of love. This meditation will give you mental clarity. It will
open your inner awareness to enable you to act clearly and consciously. It will cool your reactive nature and give you balance to live your life with "PURPOSE". Don't be a loose caboose.

Also, every night and morning, when going to sleep and when waking up....repeat "I a Grace of GOd" ten times, one for each breath.

Look for love and inspiration inside of yourself. You will find it. Give yourself a chance and practice this daily for the 90 days. Practice and repetition is required. Do not give up on yourself.

Remember, "keep up and you will be kept up" Chardi Kala! God bless you and may Guru ever guide you to happiness and harmony.

[Previous Main Document]
Sex (01/27/2001)
[Next Main Document]

by Topic | by Category | by Date | Home Page

History - Donation - Privacy - Help - Registration - Home - Search

Copyright 1995-2004 SikhNet