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Summary of Question:	Don't Socialize Because My Friends Have Styled Hair
Category:	Hair
Date Posted:	Saturday, 3/29/2003 1:16 PM MDT

hi

i know a lot abt hair n its importance n all tht our gurus hv said abt hair
n why v shouldn't cut it
but i still don't understand wat is wrong with me
i m young 17 yrs
n i love goin out with my friends for movies n shoppin but i can't go out ..........something within me stops me from doin it
i always feel ashamed abt my uncut unshaped hair
all my friends hv beautiful shaped n layered hair n they always leave it open
n it really makes them look good
i mean physical appreance is enhanced my good hair n it gvs me the inferiorty complex
n tht is reason i don't go out with my frinds n i always gv them some or the other excuse tht i m not well or smthg
i think this problem is really hampering my social being
plz help me out
watin for ur reply
thank u
sat nam waheguru

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Sat nam Waheguru. Dear one, your hair is beautiful, long and flowing. Mine won't grow anymore so I envy you a little bit.
It is not good to see yourself as inferior because you are Sikh and don't cut your hair. You are seeing yourself through the eyes of others, through the eyes of the fashion industry. When you look in the mirror, do you see yourself or see your friends? Sikhi is not about fashion. Long hair is beautiful in its own way, and true beauty is not about how you look it's about how you radiate. So only you can decide that being different is OK. It takes courage; it's not the life you lead, it's the COURAGE your bring to it that is important. Guru Gobind Singh wanted us to stand out. If you truly in your heart without question believe in why we keep our hair, then you can go out as a daughter of Guru Gobind Singh and be PROUD of your kesh and your Khalsa lineage. If you really can't bear to stand out as a SIkh with your cut-hair friends, then please, find yourself friends who keep their long hair. Do not isolate yourself over this, it is not worth the damage to your sense of self. Guru ang sang,
-DKK